Saturday, January 28, 2012

3 in 30 Update- Week 4

3in30 Challenge

Well, this is the last week in January.  Next week I will change my goals and come up with three that are completely new.  Whether I've been successful or not so successful at these ones I think I've learned a lot by setting a goal and following it week by week.  I can see where my priorities are, I've been able to monitor my health and see what's working for me in that area, and I have enjoyed sharing this part of my life with all of you.  

Goal #1:  No smoking.  
I have been 100% successful in this area this month.  The last day I had a cigarette was New Year's Eve, and I don't intend on every having another.  I am super proud of this achievement, even though in all reality it wasn't that difficult.  I've quit once before, and for me smoking really is about making a choice.  I have to admit that for my husband, that choice isn't quite such an easy one to make.  He has struggled, really, really struggled, with quitting several times.  He is doing well, though.  I'm proud of us together.

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Goal #2:  Unpack boxes in the bedroom
So, the same boxes are STILL sitting in the bedroom, but this is part of the learning experience.  I'm not going to get to those boxes anytime soon.  To be honest, I want to spend the time I have with my family, not cleaning up boxes.  I'll get to them, probably over Spring Break.

Goal #3:  Exercise bike
I just can't seem to get myself onto the exercise bike.  Even when I was perfectly healthy that wasn't my favorite form of exercise, and I think I resist it because it's not really what I want to do.  I know I made a goal to get on it for just 5 minutes a day, but looking at the bike reminds me that what I really want to do is run.  I HAVE been getting out for short walks with Daniel in the last few days.  We turn around when my feet hurt too much to continue.  At least I'm getting something done and it feels authentic to me.  I definitely do better with exercise if there seems to be some kind of point to it. 

Stay tuned for my new set of goals next week.  I think they are going to be challenging but enjoyable.  
How have you done on your goals this month?  What is something new you will be shooting for in February?

Friday, January 27, 2012

Girls' Club Update

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You may remember me talking about the club for girls I was going to start this semester.  Oh, I was so excited, and really looking forward to it.  Well, unfortunately it has already been canceled.  The first week back to school many girls were talking about attending.  I got them pumped up and ready to go when we returned the second week.  

On the first day of the club I was standing in my classroom all my myself.  I gave it a few more minutes, thinking the girls were taking a break, going to the bathroom, getting drinks, being responsible middle school students.  As the halls got more and more quiet I realized I was fooling myself.  There were no girls coming to my classroom.  Day one of the club was a bust.  I went home frustrated and saddened.

The vice principal in charge of clubs wouldn't let me give up that easily, as I wanted to just cancel the club that week.  She put yet another advertisement for the group in the school newsletter, and we talked up the club again.  Girls were excited, raising their hand when I took a poll of who was attending, and were asking me about the first day activities.  They really wanted to join; or so it seemed.  

Week number two found me once again standing in an empty classroom.  This time I was more than upset.  A couple of the students who were supposed to be in the club were wandering through the halls, unsupervised.  They were telling one club chair they were at my club, and they were telling me they were supposed to be somewhere else.  Sixth grade girls definitely start turning into Jr. High students right around this time of year.  

I have to admit that I am not terrible sad about canceling the club, though I am extremely disappointed.  I wasn't going to get paid for this extra work, and I'm starting to feel the crunch of being a part-time employee working full-time hours.  Or maybe the truth is that no matter how old we get rejection just sucks.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Book Excerpt: The Prophet by K.J. Dahlen




I am pleased to bring you my first book from the Ever After PR company. Book bloggers, this is a REALLY fun company to work with, and they offer a TON of options for bringing books to your readers. Check them out if you are looking for more books to review.

Today I am bringing you "The Prophet" by K.J. Dahlen. The following synopsis was provided by Ever After to tell you about the book. You can buy "The Prophet" on Amazon.com in Kindle and paperback editions.



The Prophet
Synopsis
 For the last three years FBI agents Rheta Morgan and Sean Carter have been following a serial killer known as the Prophet Elijah. Each has his/her own reason for hunting him down. Their reasons are personal but that doesn’t stop them from hunting down this killer. Rheta’s reason is that Elijah murdered her sister. She was one of his “Chosen One’s.”
The Prophet is a man they know as Elijah Banks. He swooped into town, gathers a handpicked flock, takes everything they have and departs after murdering his “Chosen One”. He’s crafty and never says in one area too long.  That’s the biggest reason he hasn’t been caught yet.
Rheta and Sean find him in La Crosse, WI and they are determined not to lose him this time.  When they arrest his disciple, Cole Robbins they uncover evidence that leads them to the complex behind the scenes cult Elijah belongs to called The Brotherhood. The Brotherhood is a secret society set up twenty years ago by a man named Richard Holden. Richard encouraged his group to recruit people with less than savory reputations for his army of followers. Richard wanted the power and the wealth of being the one in charge. He named himself the “Father” and has complete control over the Brotherhood.
 Rheta discovers that her partner was at one time a part of The Brotherhood. But Sean comes clean and explains he was undercover at the time and has been undercover ever since. His real name is Michael Roane. He also tells him that Elijah isn’t the Prophet’s real name. His real name is Jody Bradford and Jody is Michael’s cousin.
Jody barely escapes from La Crosse leaving behind chaos and several broken and bloody lives.  They trail him to northern Minnesota. The cult is there for a “Gathering.”   
           The FBI including Rheta and Michael confront the cult and manage to contain most of the group. Who isn’t dead from the gunfight are arrested. But when the dust settles Jody is nowhere to be found. The leader Richard Holden is missing as well. They find Richard’s body a little later. He died from a stab wound rather than a bullet and Michael and Rheta know that Jody murdered Richard.  Rheta is worried that he’ll change his name and start all over somewhere else but Michael knows how to bring Elijah back to him. He has taken something Jody values most. He found Jody’s money and he knows Jody will want it back.  In retaliation Jody comes back and kidnaps the two people Michael cares about the most, Michael’s sister Theresa and Rheta herself. Jody sends Michael a video of Rheta, hanging in a silo slowly filling with corn and Theresa who he’s buried alive with a small tank of oxygen.
Now the race is on to see if Michael can rescue Rheta and his sister before Jody gets away for good. They track him down to a small town in Colorado. Michael finds Rheta just moments before the silo implodes but when they find Elijah’s compound, he’s nowhere to be found. Michael finds where Jody sent him the video concerning his sister but his sister is missing.
 Jody is running for his life and Michael and Rheta are two steps behind him.  Theresa causes an accident that leaves her injured and Jody on foot. When they find him, Jody refuses to go quietly. In fact he taunts Michael that the Brotherhood will never be stopped. He claims that his brothers will avenge his betrayal and that Michael won’t see them coming until it’s too late. He claims that even good people can be pushed only so far before they fall into anarchy. Jody claims there is a restlessness, almost an undercurrent of evil brewing and that soon it would spill out and consume everything good and pure. The storm of evil is coming sooner than they think. Then rather than spend the rest of his life in prison, Jody chooses certain death.
Michael and Rheta are left with more questions than answers and hopes Jody is wrong.

And.... for your reading pleasure, here is an excerpt from the book:

Chapter One
It was late and Rheta sat at her desk in Chicago reading yet
another report. Her eyes were tired, causing the words to blur
together. She stopped for a moment and took off her reading glasses
then rubbed her eyes. She had the beginnings of a really good
headache starting and it didn’t want to quit. The nagging pain in her
temple was spreading and she knew she should call it a night.
The light on her desk seemed awfully bright tonight. She got
up to get herself another cup of coffee and found her muscles tired
and sore from sitting at her desk too long. She glanced at the clock.
No wonder I’m tired, she thought to herself. The clock read 3:34 a.m.
She looked over at the couch in her office. Maybe I should take a
nap, she thought as she headed over toward the couch. Glancing over
at the coffee pot, she noticed it was empty anyway.
Rheta headed for the couch. As she stretched out, she was
very glad she hadn’t given into Sean’s request for a leather sofa in the
office. She hated the feel of leather and since she spent most of her
time right here in this office, she had the final say in the decor. As she
closed her eyes, she thought about turning off the light, but her body
wouldn’t let her get up again. She was almost asleep before her eyes closed.

About two hours later, she began tossing and turning caught
up in the all-too-familiar nightmare she dreaded. She was leaning
toward the makeshift alter, reaching her hand out to the person lying
there. Her hand was shaking as she touched the cold, clammy skin.
Rheta gently brushed a lock of blonde hair from the woman’s
forehead and wept with sadness as she looked down at the face of
someone she had loved. Her sister hadn’t deserved this fate, no one
did.
Rheta touched her face and gently outlined her cheek with
her finger. She couldn’t believe Sarah was gone, yet the pool of blood
from the wound on her neck spoke differently. Her entire shirt was
painted crimson with it. Tears of rage and anger filled Rheta’s soul
and as she wept for the sister she couldn’t save. She vowed not to let
the man who murdered her get away with it.
Rheta looked down at her hands. They were stained with
Sarah’s blood and her own tears. She looked at her sister’s face one
more time and was horrified to see the face no longer was Sarah’s but
another woman’s. Her name had been Kelly or Janice or was it
Nancy? She couldn’t remember them all anymore. There had been so
many, a different face in each city over the last few years. She
looked again at the face she didn’t recognize. This time, the face was
a skeleton. There was no flesh or features left on it. It was just what
remained after everything else had faded away. She opened her
mouth to scream but couldn’t make any sound come out. With her
heart pounding in her chest, Rheta sat up on the couch and screamed
out loud.
She brushed her long dark hair away from her face and
looked around the room. Glancing toward the window, she saw the
dawn just breaking in the eastern horizon. Wiping the sweat from her
forehead, she got up and stumbled toward the coffee pot. Rheta was
still shaking inside as she remembered the nightmare that had plagued
her for the last few years, ever since she had found her sister Sarah’s
body. She caught her reflection in the mirror above the coffee station
and grimaced. Her hair had a tossed look she got when she slept
badly. Her green eyes looked tired and there were dark circles under
them.
A man who called himself, The Prophet, had murdered
Sarah and all the others. To Rheta, he was nothing more than a serial
killer who hadn’t been caught yet, and she stressed the word yet.

She and Sean had been trailing the man responsible for these
deaths for three years now. They had tracked him through four
different states and about 13 cities along the way. His M.O. was
always the same. He would set up shop in an abandoned building
somewhere on the poorer side of town and troll the streets looking for
his next victim. Then all the while, he would gather a following of
people looking for something missing from their dull everyday lives.
He would offer them hope of a better tomorrow with one hand as he
took what little they had as far as money or possessions with the
other. The people around him were so overwhelmed by his presence
they never realized what he was doing to them until it was too late.
He was gone and they were left with nothing, except empty hearts
and wallets and something else...at least one of them would be dead.

So, what do you think?  Does this sound like something you would like to read?  


Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Book Review: "Finding Noel" by Richard Paul Evans


Finding NoelFinding Noel by Richard Paul Evans
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I have never read a Richard Paul Evans book that let me down, and "Finding Noel" is just another example of this author's superb story-telling.  I would highly recommend not listening to the final disk of this audio book on the way into work when you need to be upbeat and in an early meeting without tears running down your face.  I learned the hard way, so I thought I would share this nugget of wisdom with you.  Mr. Evans has a way of making his characters feel like family.  I wanted to drive around the block time and time again just so I could find out what was going to happen.  Unfortunately, the earlier referenced meeting could not be put off, and I had to stop the car and go to work.  It gave me time to reflect, though, and savor the fantastic story the Richard Paul Evans has brilliantly put together.


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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

R is for Rage (A Short Story)

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At one point I was doing really well with writing and posting my short stories.  I write in spurts as the inspiration comes to me, but I would really like to start getting into the habit a little more often.  For now I have decided to share the first short story I posted on my blog.  

You can read "Rage" by clicking on the link provided.  I also have a short story tab  at the top of my blog.  I encourage you to check out some of the writings I have posted.  I think my favorite story is "Home," but I have a fondness for all of them for different reasons.

Please note:  "Rage" was written during a creative writing class that was meant to take me out of my comfort zone.  It is one of the few writings I have done that "lets go" and explores what could happen.  There is language that is definitely NOT child friendly and could be considered offensive.  Please keep this in mind before opening and reading "Rage."  If you are looking for something a little more mild I would start with "Home."


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Monday, January 23, 2012

Fear

Daniel and I were out doing our weekly errands last weekend, and he made a comment that sort of got to me.  I had picked up an item from a shelf in the back of the store and decided I didn't want it by the time we got to the register.  The line was long, so I said I would run the item back to the shelf.  Daniel said, "I can do it more quickly.  I'll get it."  Now, that shouldn't seem like a big deal, but it was.

My husband has never been one to baby me, and to be honest he hasn't always had the best of manners.  Offering to put something away if I'm already on top of it is not something that would necessarily be a first reaction for Daniel.  Don't get me wrong, he is a loving and caring person, but I have also somewhat "trained" him to allow me to have my independence as well.  I can be pretty stubborn.

Later in the day I asked him why he hurried to put the item back on the shelf and he admitted that he has noticed me slowing down quite a bit.  He could tell I was getting tired.  I really didn't want to hear this, because I have always held out hope that I would be improving by now.  Instead, we are at a point where Daniel is noticing when I need a break and when I can be pushed just a little farther.  This SUCKS!  Truth be told, I CAN'T move as quickly as I used to.  I have noticed a huge lag in my reflex times, too.  I tell my brain to move my body, and it takes a few moments before getting the message to my muscles.  This is scary, but I try not to think about that.  Fear has held me back too often in my life.  THAT monster is not going to get me again!

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The truth is, though, that the fear IS getting to me.  I worry that I won't be able to do the things that make me who I am.  Forget the running and the exercise.  I think I'm adjusting to that okay now.  What about the days I can't hold a pen?  For now I am covering up my illness pretty well in front of my classes, but what happens when the day comes that I just can't be that strong in the classroom?  I guess we'll have to cross that bridge when we get there.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Saturday, January 21, 2012

January 21- National Hugging Day

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Today is National Hugging Day!  I have to be honest, I'm not a huge hugger.  But, for those of you who love to hug, this holiday was made for you.  Enjoy!


Friday, January 20, 2012

5 Dogs



Mama’s Losin’ It


MamaKat's prompt this week was to talk about five dogs in my lifetime and why they were memorable.  Well, having fostered MANY, MANY dogs over the course of a few years I have plenty to choose from!  All in all, there were 97 dogs that passed through our door; some stayed for mere hours while they were waiting for other placement, some stayed for as long as eight months.  We fostered beagles and retrievers of all kinds.

1.  Bruce:  This wasn't a foster dog; he was our family pet from as far back as I can remember.  One day when I was in high school I came home from work to find my mom laying on the porch with our big golden retriever. He couldn't get up, and we all knew it was time to say goodbye.  He had been having some trouble for awhile, and the next day my parents took him to send him off humanly.  He was no longer in pain.  This is the first time, and one of the VERY few, that I can remember both of my parents being so emotional it hurt.  Bruce was a good dog and a great friend to us all.

2.  Rusty:  Having grown up around golden retrievers all my life, I knew I wanted one the minute I was old enough to have my own place.  Being young and stupid, not knowing what I do now, I went to the pet store and paid $2000 for my very own pet.  When the boyfriend I was living with and I broke up, Rusty and I went to live with my parents.  In what is definitely NOT a common example for golden retrievers, Rusty turned aggressive.  So aggressive that one day he backed my dad down the hallway, growling and snarling the whole way.  Unfortunately we had to put that dog down because he was going to hurt someone.  It wasn't a matter of if, but WHEN.  I have since learned why people shouldn't buy from pet stores.

3.  Cody:  When I volunteered for Arizona Retriever Rescue we lived in a beautiful house with a fenced yard, and I was a stay-at-home mom.  My family rarely went out for too long, and we never ventured far from home.  I was the perfect foster mom for this dog who was terrified of thunder storms and couldn't be crated because he was so afraid of enclosed spaces.  He had been known to jump over walls and had entered a neighbor's dog door to find people.  His family was moving to China and they couldn't bring Cody, so they surrendered him to the rescue group.  Cody quickly became part of our family, and he stayed with us for eight months.  Oh, how I wanted to adopt that boy!  Unfortunately his fear of thunderstorms, fireworks, and loud noises was extreme.  Many nights during monsoon season I would lay with him on the floor while he shook and shook.  As the girls grew older I realized that I couldn't be with a dog 24/7.

4.  Lexie:  Arizona Golden Retriever Connection called to tell us they had a foster placement they were sure wouldn't last long.  She needed to get her foot fixed up, then she would be on her way to a new family.  We had Cody at the time, and the two of them became great friends.  For some reason, be it her foot issue or the fact that she was an older female, Lexie was also with us for eight months.  Saying goodbye to her was TOUGH!  We knew we were moving into a small townhouse, and we just didn't feel right bringing her into such an environment.

5.  I'm going to take the easy way out here and lump all the rest of the fosters together.  There were some who stood out more than others, but all of them were special in some way.  Volunteering for rescue groups was one of the most rewarding and fun experiences, and I'm glad I got that opportunity.  Fostering dogs was great fun for the whole family.  Unfortunately we are at a time in our lives where having people and pets in and out of our home is just not a realistic goal.  One day we will get there again, but for now I would like to encourage you to get involved if your heart says fostering is right for your family.

3 in 30- Week 3

3in30 Challenge

Week 3 went well, though there are some areas I wish I could have made more progress in.  That's okay, there's always next week.

Smoking-  AWESOME!  I have not had a cigarette since New Year's Eve, and this is going well.  I really don't have a problem in this area at all, except around other smokers.  I even had an opportunity to say no and walk away this week.  Like I've said before, it sucks to not hang out with certain friends but this has to be about me. Daniel is doing great, too.  He is using the nicotine patch, but he is happy and pleasant to be around.  I'm really hoping this is it for both of us!

Boxes- Well, I'm pretty much stalled in this area.  I got one box done, but I've been lazy about getting to the other one.  School break times really offer a lot more time to get things done.  I should have just tackled the boxes over winter break and had it done.  By the time I get home from work now I don't want to do anything, and the weekends are jam packed with other activities.  I'm going to keep this on my goal list, but I have a feeling this may not get done until Spring Break in March.

Exercise bike-  See the boxes above.  This is really hard, and to add to the work and weekend reasoning my Fibromyalgia is beating me up.  Week 2 was super difficult because of the routine of working after a three week break.  Week 3 was difficult because my body needs more time to recover than it used to.  Grrr....  I'm thinking the exercise bike was a great idea when that was the only activity I was getting but walking around in my classroom all day seems to be all I can handle right now.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Q is for Quiet Time

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One thing I absolutely MUST have every day is some quiet time to myself.  This can range anywhere from 15 minutes to a few hours, but if I don't get that time I seriously start to feel anxious.  Since I am a naturally early riser anyway I make sure to get up before anyone else in the house.  This usually gives me an hour to be alone.  I don't turn on the radio or the TV.  

Since starting to work I have found it more difficult to get the time I need into a day, but I find it even more essential.  I have made it a point to head into my bedroom about the same time the girls go to theirs to do their nightly reading.  On most nights now I spend this time doing my own reading.  Some nights, however, I'm just plain exhausted and watch TV instead.  

What are some things you do to get some quiet time in for yourself?


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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

P is for Parents


I am super fortunate when it comes to my parents.  They are still together through 38 years of marriage.  They are both relatively healthy, and they are an active part of our family life.  The best part is that they only live three miles down the road.

Unfortunately our work schedules don't always match up very well, so we don't see my mom and dad quite as often as we like.  There is a benefit to those crazy schedules, though.  In most cases, if needed there is an adult to help out with the girls.  I love that my kids have grandparents they know they can count on and who enjoy spending time with them throughout the year.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

O is for One Word

Last year I found a website that I fell in love with as a writer.  OneWord.com gives the user a single word and sixty seconds to write about it.  The author can be serious, she can tell a realistic story, or she can use the word to launch a fictional tale.

I have, unfortunately, gotten out of the habit of using OneWord, but I need to start again.  It is such fun to read what others have come up with in the same one minute time limit.  Several of my short stories came from OneWord prompts.  It's really interesting to see what can come about from one simple word.

Monday, January 16, 2012

N is for New Year's Resolutions

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As you all know, I decided not to do New Year's Resolutions this year.  Instead, I set some goals for myself.  The biggest of those goals is that I am going to learn to be okay with myself and my new normal.  I am going to cut myself some slack and quit beating myself up that I can't do the things I could at this time last year.  On the other hand, I am going to celebrate the things I CAN do.  

I found a really cool challenge that I think is going to help me with my plan for this year.  It is called the 3 in 30 challenge.  You can see my first post here.  The idea is to set three goals to work on throughout each month.  In January I started with smoking, cleaning, and a bit of exercise.  I love that these are things I can work on every day and I have a whole month to focus on those things.  If I need to start over on something a new month is right around the corner.  

Just out of curiosity I looked at my New Year's Resolution post from last year.  It's really not anything special; just the typical resolutions that are common.  Losing weight, eating better, spending more time exercising, etc.  One that really caught my attention was encouraging more positiveness in my family.  I would like to do that again as I didn't do so well with that in 2011.  This time I'll actually define that and decide what success will look like for me.  Stay tuned to see that in my February 3 in 30 post.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Today in History- January 15, 1929

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On January 15, 1929 Martin Luther King, Jr. was born in Atlanta, Georgia.  The son of a Baptist minister, Martin Luther King, Jr. earned a doctorate degree in theology and went on to become a powerful speaker.  Dr. King organized several peaceful protests and was instrumental in the civil rights movement.  He is most well-known for his "I Have a Dream" speech.

It is partially due to Martin Luther King, Jr.'s hard work and dedication that racial discrimination is outlawed in the United States.  As a teacher, I am most excited about the accomplishments that were made in the field of education.  Students of all backgrounds, colors, and religions now learn together.  We still have a long way to go for complete equality in this country, but we owe a big thank you to people like Martin Luther King, Jr. for helping us get started in the right direction.


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Saturday, January 14, 2012

3 in 30 Challenge- Week 2

3in30 Challenge

For more details about the 3 in 30 challenge see my Week 1 post.  Today ends Week 2, so it's time for an update.  After you read about how my goals are going, please be sure to leave a comment about how you are doing.  Is there anything I can help you with?

1.  Smoking- I am continuing to do well here.  I have not had a cigarette since New Year's Eve, and I don't intend to smoke again.  The main thing that has to happen for this to be successful is to not hang around with people who are smoking.  Although this sucks because it limits my interactions with some of my best friends, it's what I need to do for me.  I am totally okay hanging out with those same people as long as there are no cigarettes around or if they understand when I walk away.

2.  Clean up the boxes in my bedroom- One down, one to go!  I pulled out the first box to empty and Daniel jumped in to help me.  Within about 15 minutes the box was done.  Too bad I didn't start with the big one!

3.  Ride the exercise bike-  This is one area where I need to remember my one and only New Year's resolution which was to give myself slack and realize my new normal is not always going to allow me to do physically what I wish I could.  I have the best of intentions to get on the exercise bike every day, but even 5 minutes seems too much on some days.  After working all day I just don't have it in me to get on the bike.  I'm doing what I can, though, and that is the important part.

Friday, January 13, 2012

M is for Muppets



I don't think I'm ready to grow up.  There- I said it.  I still love the Muppets, I got "Where the Wild Things Are" stuffed toys for my 35th birthday, and my favorite music is still Disney soundtracks.  Fortunately for me, I'm a child of the 80s, and 80s retro is cool.  I hope the obsession with that era continues so I can fit right in!

When my girls were little I loved that I could watch cartoons with them and sing silly songs.  As they are growing up and out of these stages I find myself somewhat saddened.  Now I don't have excuses to enjoy these things that make me smile.  Well, I don't need an excuse.  I'm going to enjoy anyway!

Thursday, January 12, 2012

L is for Lounging Around

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Before I got sick in March I was always on the go.  Monday through Friday I would work or volunteer at the school, and Saturday was our errand day.  From the time we got up in the morning until late in the afternoon we were running around getting things done and cleaning the house.  Just in time for dinner we would stop and finally settle in for the evening.  Sunday was really our only day to kick back and enjoy life, but even then we'd probably wind up finding something that needed to be done.


After my hospitalization in April I was reduced to basically doing nothing.  In those first months of being sick I may get out of the house for an hour or two, but gone were the days of running around for half the day then cleaning for the rest.  I can't say I can complain about the cleaning part; doing one small bathroom at a time was about all I could handle and that alone could take me all day.  


What I learned while I was "recovering" was that I COULD sit and do nothing.  The world would not stop if I didn't get something done, and my head would not pop off if I didn't do something productive.  In fact, many times I had to just sit in silence just so my head WOULDN'T explode.  Many hours were spent on the couch listening to meditation music on Pandora.  Thank goodness I had my laptop and blogs to keep me busy.  For some reason I could see the computer screen okay (for the most part) and could concentrate on short articles and posts, but reading a book was like torture.  I could only imagine what it must be like to be a child who cannot focus for longer than 10 minutes at a time.  That was me.  Maybe that's why the computer worked out for me so well.  I could jump from one thing to the next without really committing to any one task.  


Although I longed for nothing more than to get back to "normal" life, I quickly found that there was a new normal to get back to.  No longer can I run around all of Saturday.  Now I MUST give myself some time to lounge around.  Maybe the alarm doesn't get set during the weekends anymore.  Maybe I stretch in bed for a few more minutes before crawling out where I used to hop out of bed like a spring.  Maybe Saturday afternoons are spent watching a movie or catching up on Grey's Anatomy instead of cleaning the bathrooms or organizing the books I want to bring to school for my classroom library.  No matter what the method, I have finally found value in lounging around.  I no longer consider it lazy.  It is now restorative.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Two-Year Marriage Contracts

I recently came across an article that told about how Mexico now has marriage contracts that last just two years.  Their reasoning is that more than half of new marriages are ending in divorce, most before they even get to two years.  Although my opinion will probably be extremely unpopular, I don't necessarily think these contracts are a bad idea.  Let me explain.


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I was married to my first husband for just two-and-a-half years.  I knew it was over before we got to our first anniversary.  Truth-be-told, I knew it was over the night we got married.  I thought I had done everything right. We had talked about the number of children we wanted and how we envisioned our futures.  My first husband and I agreed on everything, right up to the wedding day.  That night he literally changed his mind on just about everything we had agreed on.  Let me put it this way, the marriage was not consummated on the day of our wedding.  When  it finally was several nights later it was using birth control even though we had agreed we would start trying for children right away because of my endometriosis.

Throughout those first months I found out some very interesting things about this man I had married.  I found out more about his background, his interests, and his future plans.  Interestingly, this sounded much different than the fairy tale he had sold me on.  I came from a family who didn't divorce, though, so I hung on as long as I could.  I finally couldn't take it any longer and asked for a divorce.  He granted me one happily, not even bothering to show up in front of the judge for the final divorce proceedings.  He was already off living his new life.

The point I'm trying to make is that people don't take marriage seriously anymore. My ex-husband wanted to be married, but he didn't want the same things I did.  Why, then, didn't we just break off our relationship so he could move on and I could find what I wanted?  I'm not really sure why that didn't happen.  I'm seeing this more and more, though.  Either people don't want to be honest, or they don't want to explore their own feelings.  They don't understand that words DO have meaning.  The other party in a relationship actually believes in the hopes and the dreams he or she has described and shared.

It is for this reason I am actually in favor of the two-year marriages contracts.  Give couples a chance to see if they have what it takes to keep their commitments.  We are growing into a world where people don't mean what they say and say what they mean.  If the relationship is still working out at the end of the contract, renew for a longer time.  My only worry is the children.  My hope is that these "starter marriages" would not produce children.  Then again, that's a whole different issue since so many children are being born without two parents to raise them now.



Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Movie Review: Mars Needs Moms

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This movie has been on my wish list to see since I first saw previews.  It just looked so cute!  I finally got around to watching it this week when I picked it up from the library.  My daughters, husband, and a family friend watched it together, and we all had a great time!

Martian babies are raised by "nanny-bots," and Mars needs moms so they can steal their skills for the nannies.  As luck would have it, Milo has told his mom he would be better off without a mom on the same night she is kidnapped to be used by the Martians.  Milo hops aboard the spaceship and tries to rescue his mom.  Through his actions and the help of some others on the planet, Milo saves his mom and brings some compassion back to the Martians.

The story was cute and moved along at a nice pace.  Even my husband was cheering at some points, yelling at the TV in others, and generally having a good time.  It is, of course, a pretty predictable plot, but all in all it was presented in a way that was enjoyable.  The animation was done so well that we even had an argument about whether some of the characters were live actors.  


I would recommend "Mars Needs Moms" to everyone who has ever had a child who said, "I hate you," or "I would be better off without you," or who said these things as children themselves.  This movie is a nice reminder of all Mom does for us.  It reminds moms that we are needed, too.


Monday, January 9, 2012

What'cha Reading Monday? January 9, 2012




For once I am only reading one book.  That's amazing!  In my old age I am finding that reading one book at a time works better.  I should more accurately say with the lack of reading time I have one book serves the purpose better.  I can focus on that one book until it is finished rather than dividing my time and not finishing books before they are due back at the library.  I will be starting another audio book on my way to work today, though.  I just haven't decided which one. 

The book I am currently reading is "Shirley, Goodness, and Mercy," an angel book by one of my favorite authors.  Debbie Macomber writes about great characters, and her books are usually quick, easy reads.  This is the story of three angels who have been sent down to earth to help a man who has prayed for guidance but has a pretty messed up life.  I'm sure Greg Bennett will turn out alright in the end, which is one thing I enjoy about Macomber's books.  They offer a sense of peace and security for times when a bit of light reading is just what is called for!

Missing You


Wow, I had forgotten how much I enjoyed blogging.  These past three weeks, being on Winter Break, offered me a lot of free time.  Time to catch up on the reading and writing I don't usually get to do during the school weeks.  I realized how much I am going to miss this. 

But, it's time for me to head back to work.  Time for me to, once again, focus on my students and how to best serve their needs.  This is going to be an exciting semester.  I changed how my classroom is going to work.  There will be a lot more in-class assignments and not so much homework.  Students will have journals to write in rather than handing in single papers.  No more no-name issues!  The lesson plans have been modified to fit what each class has expressed as their favorite learning styles.  We'll see how this goes!

I'm looking forward to starting the Happy, Healthy Hearts club for 5th and 6th grade girls.  I have lesson plans prepared for the first five weeks and have more ideas for the weeks following that.  I only have 16 or 17 weeks (depending on if we have clubs the last week of school) to work with, so I can't get too crazy with ideas and plans.  I wish I had thought of this club earlier in the school year!  That's okay, I probably wasn't ready then.  Next year the club will continue to grow.

I'm still going to be posting, reading, and commenting, but it won't be as often as it has been this last month.  Don't worry.... I haven't forgotten you.  I'll be back in full force over Spring Break, I'm sure!  

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Happy Birthday Andrea!

Happy Birthday to my beautiful daughter Andrea!  Today she turns 11-years-old.


Wow, does time fly!  It doesn't seem like 11 years since we brought home our first child.  It seems like yesterday she was starting Kindergarten and meeting new friends.  Now she has a whole different group of friends but still mentions a few from years past.  

This year Andrea is looking forward to her first long field trip for Oceanography Club.  She is going to play viola in her first concert, and she hopes to join a basketball team at the YMCA.  She's got a lot to look forward to, and it all sounds like a lot of fun.  I hope this year is awesome for her!

Celebrating Family


Saturday, January 7, 2012

3 in 30 Challenge- Week 1

3in30 I'm In!!

I saw this challenge on a blog I follow, and I thought it was a great idea.  I don't make New Year's Resolutions because I think it is just too big of an idea.  This, however, is right up my alley!  Three smaller goals, 30 days to work on them, and the chance to start again fresh if need be in a relatively short time.  

I am starting to work on this the first week of the new year.  I plan to start fresh each first of the month and see how things are going for me.  Here are my goals for the first month of the year:

1.  NO smoking at ALL!  For those of you who have followed for awhile know, I quit smoking for 14 months.  An extremely stressful situation happened at our home, leading to some huge life changes for our family, and I STUPIDLY picked up a cigarette when my husband lit one.  Don't ask me what I was thinking.  Since then I've smoked here and there, almost always in social situations.  You know what they say... to change habits you have to change the people and places you hang around.  I haven't been willing to stop hanging around my friends, and since Daniel is STILL struggling with quitting he's had cigarettes around.  I can't stop hanging around him.  So, I have made a decision.  If I can't say no and still be around these people,  I will need to walk away.  Go into the house and pick up a book.  Go for a walk around the block if I am feeling up to it.  Whatever I have to do to not feel the peer pressure to do what the rest of the crowd is doing.  It's funny.... I am on day seven of not smoking at all (New Year's Eve I smoked with friends).  I have absolutely no interest in having a cigarette and not a craving at all.  BUT, I haven't been around anyone smoking, either, as Daniel has been doing a fantastic job himself.  Smoking isn't a physical addiction for me.  It's a stupid choice I make when I don't know what else to do.

2.  Clean up the two boxes sitting next to my desk.  When we moved (in September) there were two boxes of "stuff" that belong in the office area.  They are important enough to hang onto, but not important enough that they get used every day  ever.  They are filled with little papers that need to be filed or thrown away, and the task just seems like such a big effort.  I trip over the boxes often, or I wind up throwing them from one side of my bedroom to the other.  I want to get those taken care of once and for all.  I think that will lead to a bit more peace and a much nicer looking bedroom!

3.  Ride the exercise bike.  No, I won't be able to run.  Yes, I can do other exercises.  I need to start doing something that isn't enjoyable to me just so I can be doing SOME exercise.  I am going to start riding the exercise bike for 5 minutes per day.  No, that's not a lot of time, but that's the point.  Maybe if I get on for 5 minutes I'll stay on for 10.  Maybe I'll be able to find a balance between working out and overdoing it.  That's been the biggest problem for me and my autoimmune disorder.  If I exercise too much I pay a big price.  I haven't been able to find where that line is.  I think the line keeps moving daily.  Five minutes, though, should give me a good baseline.  I'll take a book on the exercise bike with me and get in a few extra minutes of reading.

What are some things you would like to accomplish this month?  Can you commit to making it happen in the next 30 days?




Movie Review: Idiocracy

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It's not too often my dad mentions he wants to watch a movie.  So when he suggested "Idiocracy" and told us what it was about I immediately put it on hold at my local library.  I am so glad we did!

Before I go any farther I will admit that this movie was a waste of 90 minutes if you want an intellectual film.  There is cussing and disgusting jokes, but it is FUNNY!  This is just what I needed to relax and have a good time with my family.

"Idiocracy" is about an average man and an average woman in 2005 who are frozen for a government experiment.  They are supposed to be woken up a year later, but the lab gets shut down.  The pair finally wake up in 2505 to a whole new world.  In this new world the average man is now the smartest man in the world.  The United States has essentially turned into a bunch of morons who can't put together a full sentence to save their lives and are run by corporate endorsements.  

I loved this movie because it has so much truth behind it.  The idea is hidden under a comedy, but I think the writers were really trying to make a point.  A point that should be paid attention to before we really do head down this path.  In America we seem to value and encourage stupidity many times.  "Idiocracy" is a great reminder of what can happen if we don't pay attention to the roads we travel.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Follow Friday- January 6, 2012



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This week’s statements:
1. Keeping my mouth shut is not my strongest virtue.  I am terrible about saying what comes to my mind.  It's not that I don't have a filter.  I do.  I just won't sit back and allow people to spread untruths.  I try to hold myself just as accountable as I do others, too.

2. Dinner is my favorite meal of the day.  I have never been good at eating breakfast, and lunch just seems either rushed or lonely.  Dinner is when I get to sit down with my family and enjoy a meal.  The best thing about dinner is that it can be as light or as heavy as I wish depending on my mood.

3. Sunday is my favorite day of the week.  I LOVE that on Sundays no one has to be anywhere at any particular time (for the most part).  We can each sleep as late as we want, and the mornings can be lazy times.  I don't have to rush the girls or Daniel to get ready and start the day.  Sundays are often spent visiting with my parents, and if we don't do that the four of us do something fun together.  I like the calmness of the evening when everyone is getting ready for school and work the next day.

4. Whenever drama happens, I always get stressed.  For example, Amber just came home from school saying the backing of her earring has gone INTO her ear.  She is screaming and yelling, and I am stressed out.  Daniel is handling the situation, though, so I am still typing so I can try to avoid the situation.  I highly doubt the backing of her earring is literally INSIDE her earlobe, but the crying and screaming is seriously a problem for me.  It ticks me off, though, that the teacher wouldn't allow Amber to go to the school nurse to have her ear checked, though.  Peace of mind is important to 3rd graders. Dealing with this fear is not productive for paying attention in school.  Amber told us what happened IMMEDIATELY when she walked in the door from school.

For What Will You Be Remembered?

I saw this question the other day, and it really got me thinking.  How do I WANT to be remembered?  It all comes down to the same basic qualities I've valued since I can recall.  I want to be remembered for the way I loved my husband and children.  I want to be remembered for the students I helped in my classroom and others.  I want to be remembered for the friends I held dear and the ones who passed through my life simply because one of us needed something the other was able to provide at that moment.  Basically I want to be remembered for having a giving heart.

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In this lifetime I don't see myself doing something so extremely huge that my name goes into the history books.  I'm okay with that.  Really, how many people get that type of recognition?  How many of those people do we learn about and easily forget, anyway?  I want to be etched into the hearts and minds of those who recognize me as being something special.  If I can make that difference, I have done my job on this earth.  

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Daybook- Thursday, January 5, 2012

FOR TODAY

Outside my window...  it is calm and quiet.  The birds are not even awake yet as the sun just barely starts to rise.

I am thinking...  I hope I get the job I interviewed for yesterday.  The more I think about it, the more I really want it.

I am thankful...  that I have a job currently.  I will make the most of that position if I do not get the one I interviewed for yesterday.

In the kitchen...  not much is going on.  I am getting ready to make the girls' school lunches pretty soon.

I am wearing...  my pajama bottoms with a tank top.  It's actually warm in the house since I just got done doing some Wii Fit exercises.

I am creating...  the best day I can.  This is my last day of Winter Break that is just for me.  Tomorrow I will be running around getting Andrea's birthday dinner cooked.

I am going...  to Changing Hands Bookstore tonight.  There is a class called "Meditation for Relaxation" that I am looking forward to.

I am wondering...  if I will hear back from the principal about the job today.

I am reading...  nothing right now.  I just finished two books yesterday.  Today I will begin something new.

I am hoping...  that I hear back from the principal today.

I am looking forward to...  Andrea's birthday this weekend.  She is turning 11.

I am learning...  how to go after the things I want in life.  

Around the house...  I need to get some light cleaning done.  For the most part I am pleased with it, though.

I am pondering...  what I want to do after this school year if I don't get the job this week.  Interviewing for this position has shown me that I would REALLY like to teach Language Arts as originally planned.  Maybe I should work on applying for some of those positions for next year even if I might get offered full time in Social Studies where I am.

A favorite quote for today...   "All men commend patience, although few are willing to practice it-"  Thomas Kempis
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One of my favorite things...  listening to the silence as the world wakes up around me.

A few plans for the rest of the week:  Celebrating Andrea's birthday, enjoying a weekend doing whatever my family wants to, and getting my classroom ready for Monday.

A peek into my day...  I will get the girls off to school about 8:30.  Daniel and I will chat while he gets ready for work, then I will sit and enjoy some time alone.  Eventually I may get up and go work in my classroom for a little bit.  After dinner I'll go learn about meditation to help me relax better.  It will be bedtime when I get home.

Join me at The Simple Woman's Daybook to fill out your own diary for the day!