Saturday, April 30, 2011

"MawMaw-" a Short Story

Do you believe people can change? I mean deep down, real change? I do. The following is a short story about a young man who learned a very important lesson. I wonder where Mitchell is now, two years after this piece was written. I may have to write a follow up.

If you enjoy this post, please be sure to see "Rage" and "Leaving," both written by me during this same creative writing class. As always, I welcome comments. If you loved the story, please let me know! I want to hear from you if you didn't love it, too. Please tell me why. Be gentle, though, I'm still new at taking constructive criticism.


MawMaw

by Karen Lockinger Greenberg

“All rise. The honorable Judge George Henry presiding,” the bailiff barked his order while staring at the defendant. “Case number 09-01273, Mitchell Shockley vs. State of Arizona. Mitchell, also known as Meatball, is charged with assault to a person over the age of 60, making this a hate crime by Arizona state statues.”

The courtroom was filled with reporters waiting to break the story of the first hate crime verdict against the elderly residents of Arizona. Meatball was 16 years old, poorly dressed, and sporting an attitude to match. The reporters knew this boy was the perfect example for the new sentencing laws. They sat on the edge of their seats, impatiently waiting for the judge to start.

Judge Henry entered the room and sat down, “Be seated.” The judge, though intimidating in his current position, could only be described as a little old man. Curly grey hair and a face marked by the years made Judge Henry’s scowl even more pronounced. “So tell me, boy,” he began, “where did you come up with the idea to knock down a woman, steal her handbag, and run away? You been watching too many TV shows that indicate this is appropriate behavior for a young black gentleman such as yourself?”

“Nope, dawg. Just hangin’ wit da boys. I was dared, you know. Can’t turn away from dat.”

“Meatball,” Judge Henry said as he held up his fingers to make quotations marks, “I dare say that you have earned your nickname. That was just about the stupidest reasoning I’ve heard all day. I don’t know what you were thinking, kid. You think it’s cool to do such stupid things to impress your ‘homies’? Them boys are nothing but trouble.” The judge, known for his monologues given from his soapbox perch, continued. “I’ve been there myself. I was your age once. Being a black teenager in Gilbert, Arizona, is tough. It’s easy to fall out of line when you are being asked to prove yourself every day. But…. this should be a reason to show the world how grown up you are, how you are ready to take on responsibility and make a positive change. You’ve behaved like a monster, making stereotypes stronger. It is not the sign of a powerful man to push over a lady half your size. I struggled tooth and nail to sit on this bench, to show the citizens of Arizona that black men could make something of themselves, too. Boys like you make me angry. You hear me, son?”

“Wha’ ever, bro,” Mitchell’s words matched the rolling of his eyes and the cocky way he held his shoulders.

“Mitchell, I think you need to learn a lesson in respect,” Judge Henry said through clenched teeth. “Boys like you think you are tough. I’ll show you otherwise. By the time I’m done with you, you’ll know what it means to be a man.”

Everyone in the courtroom held their breath waiting for a verdict they knew would set an example. Judge Henry was known for handing down sentences criminals didn’t soon forget. This being a hate crime, Mitchell could be facing up to 10 years in prison. He was already being tried as an adult. Adding to the suspense, the judge called a 15 minute recess.

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Meatball looked around at the tiny little house. The words of the judge echoed in his head, “Boy, I’m going to do you a favor. Jail time will teach you nothing, and I believe what you need to learn is respect. You can make something of yourself if you apply the lessons you will learn throughout this experience. I hereby sentence you to 260 hours of community service. These 260 hours will be spent helping your victim, Mrs. Mackenzie, with any chores she may have for you. Cooking, cleaning, gardening… At the end of this time you will submit a five-page typewritten report detailing your duties and any thoughts you had regarding those duties. If you fail to complete these hours within 52 weeks we will revisit this courtroom in order to reexamine the necessity of you spending time in lock-up.”

Meatball knew he had gotten lucky that day in court, and it felt good that someone could see the positive side of him. While relieved that he wasn’t going to spend his junior year of high school in prison, he wasn’t sure if he deserved the light sentence or the confidence of the judge. Even now he was eyeing the $50 left carelessly on the hutch.

“Meatball, can you please find the Pledge and a rag under the kitchen sink and dust the dining room for me?” Mrs. Mackenzie called out from the backyard where she was kneeling in the garden.

Meatball started the dusting with the hutch. As he looked around and noticed that Mrs. Mackenzie wasn’t looking. He quietly slipped the $50 bill into his front pocket. She won’t notice this missing, he thought. She doesn’t even know what day of the week it is half the time.

When he thought about Mrs. Mackenzie being confused, an image of his grandmother popped into Mitchell’s head. MawMaw had been Meatball’s favorite person when he was a little boy. She had always had bear hugs and soft cookies to share with him when Meatball came to visit. As a young boy he would spend the night with his MawMaw, and the two of them would go on grand adventures together; a bug hunt one time, a trip to the ice cream store down the street another. Meatball couldn’t believe she had been dead for a whole year already. So much had happened, and he wished he could share it with her the way he used to.

Looking at his reflection in the freshly dusted hutch, Meatball slowly took the money out of his pocket and said a silent apology to Mrs. Mackenzie. He said one aloud as well, “I’m sorry MawMaw. I’ve really made a mess of things since you’ve been gone.”

Walking out into the garden, Meatball decided that today would start a new chapter in his life. Playing the tough guy since MawMaw passed was becoming exhausting. “Mrs. Mackenzie, do you have any cookie dough? I’d like to make you a batch.”

“Meatball, that sounds like a grand idea. Let me wash up and we can bake together.”

“Mrs. Mackenzie, please call me Mitchell. Meatball doesn’t hang here anymore.”

Four Fill-In Fun- April 29, 2011

Each week Feeling Beachie puts up four statements, and the idea is to fill in the blanks. It's a fun way for you to get to know more about me. This is my second week of doing this, and it's quickly becoming a favorite. Enjoy!
This week's Statements:

1. NOTHING is my favorite thing to cook! Okay, okay, I know that's a cop-out. Seriously, though, I HATE cooking. To make it worse, I really haven't been in the kitchen in weeks because of the shingles. Daniel has taken over the duties that include nourishing our bodies. Thank goodness he enjoys cooking, or we would be in REAL trouble around here.

2. I don’t know if I could still do it, but when I was a kid, I was really good at hanging off the monkey bars. At our elementary school there was a bar that I think was meant to do chin ups. The girls would all wrap their legs around the bar and flip over and over. That was fun! I don't know if kids get to do that kind of thing anymore. It seems like all the playgrounds are being made ultra-safe so no one gets hurt. Man, if we had fallen off we would have gotten really hurt, but we were still allowed to do it!

3. The best thing about last week was I started walking without the help of the walker! Even though I only spent a couple of weeks using it, I feel great not needing it. Thank goodness my recovery is going as fast as my deterioration did. If I could only get my feet to start working normally now I would be doing great!

4. The worst thing about where I live is the teenagers around us that cause trouble. Last night I went to bed with a group of kids hollering in the pool. I finally fell asleep. When I woke at 4:30 this morning there were kids (?) running around screaming. I think the sounds were coming from the pool area. Grrrrr......

Friday, April 29, 2011

"Leaving-" A Short Story

Here's another short story from my archives. I'm so glad I didn't get rid of these files after my class was over. This is the story about a husband and wife who both need out. I don't think the end will be what you are expecting, though. There's a bit of a surprise.

Warning: This story does have a negative Christian outlook. I don't mean to offend. My writing is not necessarily exactly how I feel, nor does it reflect who I am as a person. What I love as a creative writer is that I get to be someone I'm not for awhile and I get to explore a different side of life.

Again, PLEASE leave comments on my creative writing! I am taking a leap of faith by sharing my short stories in a public forum, so please be gentle. I do want to hear how I can make my writing more interesting to the reader. Enjoy!


"Leaving" by Karen Lockinger Greenberg

Rodney looked around and wondered, once again, what he was doing here. He didn’t fit in. He didn’t even believe anymore. Fearing that he would stand out if he didn’t Rodney, raised his hands in the air and began to sing.

Every Sunday morning for the past ten weeks this same scene replayed. Rodney would wake up at 6:30 to the sound of his wife fussing with the children. Getting Rodney out of bed, though, seemed to be Maria's most difficult chore. Now that they were all safely where they were expected to be, Rodney was once again lost in thought.

An hour ago they were having their regular argument. By now they both knew their lines. The fight may as well have been tape recorded. It was that consistent.

“Rodney,” Maria would shout from the back bedroom, “Please get up and help me get the kids ready for church. We still have to eat breakfast, and we are supposed to leave in 30 minutes.”

“Yeah, yeah, I’m coming,” he would reply. Everyone knew Rodney wouldn’t roll out of the warm comforter for another fifteen minutes, though. Just enough time to throw on some clothes, brush his teeth, and stand at the door with keys in hand.

“Come on,” he would say impatiently, “We’re going to be late if we don’t leave right now.”

“Damn it, Rodney,” Maria would sigh, “the kids haven’t eaten.”

“We’ll get them donuts when I stop for coffee at the 7-11. It’s really no big deal.”

Obediently and heartbroken Maria would round up their three small children, buckle them into their car seats, and get herself settled for the drive. Silent all the way to the convenience store, she would not let a single tear escape.

Yep, great way to start the week, Rodney thought. His attention came back to the church service where it belonged. Pastor James was beginning his sermon with a prayer.

The other heads being bowed and eyes closed gave Rodney the opportunity to look around and see the room for what it was. A miniature band was set up on the small stage. Large monitors used to display the lyrics to songs of worship were now showing beautiful scenes of mountains and deserts. How is this different than going to a concert, Rodney thought. The first twenty minutes of each service was spent singing, each person in the congregation swaying to the beat- some praying out loud over the music. What a waste of time.

As Rodney continued to look around his heart pounded. I don’t buy these stories, he admitted to himself. I don’t want to be here. Rodney knew that his quickened pulse, his racing heart, and the sweat breaking out on his brow were all signs of the nervousness and stress he was feeling. I need to get out, but I don’t know how.

Pastor James uttered the word “Amen,” once again bringing Rodney’s focus to the front of the tiny church. “Today we continue our series on Jesus: The Prince of Peace. As we know, when we please God by doing what we should- coming to church on Sunday, fellowshipping with other Christians during the rest of the week, reading our bible, etc.- the Lord gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit. We are filled with an inner peace that is unattainable through other measures.” As the pastor continued his speech Rodney concentrated on the introduction.

Really? If that is true why do Maria and I fight every Sunday morning? I don’t feel peace. We’re so unhappy. At that moment Rodney made a decision. He couldn’t wait for the service to be over.

The service ended with the typical song and call for people who desired personal prayer to come forward. Rodney remained in his seat this time, unwilling to pretend for one minute longer. His knee bounced like a jack hammer as Rodney impatiently waited to be dismissed.

“Honey, are you okay?” Maria asked. “You look like you are ready to fly out of here.”

“Maria, let’s talk about this on the way home. Why don’t you get Grayson out of the baby room while I round up Doug and Leslie? I’ll meet you back at the car.” Rodney didn’t want to get caught up in the small talk of the after-service crowd. He knew that finding his wife was always a good way to excuse himself.

After they had the three kids safely in the backseat and the car rolling, Maria looked at Rodney, unable to control her concern. “Okay, out with it, Rod. What’s going on?”

“Maria, what I have to tell you may come as a surprise,” Rodney started. “I hope you will accept it, though. It’s going to be a change, but I think it is for the best.”

Terrified of what the change could be, Maria only nodded. Rodney continued, “M, you know I love you and our children, but I just can’t do this anymore. I’ve been living a lie. I have to leave, and it needs to be now.”

Looking back Maria agreed that their fights had been bad, but she hadn’t known they were so bad Rodney would leave his family. “I don’t understand,” she whispered. “We can make this work. I’ll do whatever I need to do to make you happy.”

“Maria, you just don’t get it,” Rodney replied, pounding on the steering wheel. This had been his fear. He would tell his wife his feelings and she would try to talk him out of his decision. He tried to make her understand one last time. “Damn it, Maria. I’m done. That’s final. I won’t go back to church one more time. That place does nothing but bring us down. Next Sunday I want to wrap my beautiful wife in a bear hug, take my family out for a real breakfast, and enjoy my one day off. No more arguing, no more dragging the kids to a place I don’t want to be. For what? Just because we are supposed to? Don’t you see, Maria? I want to be happy.”

This time Maria allowed the tear to slide down her cheek, staining her new silk blouse. “Rodney, I thought you were leaving ME, leaving US. Let’s not fight. For the first time in what seems like forever, we agree on a Sunday morning. I have a secret, too.” Maria sighed, knowing too many weeks had been wasted because each was afraid to share the truth. Ironically they had both been hiding the same thoughts. “I’ve only been going to church because I thought YOU would be disappointed if I told you I was leaving.”

Maria looked up at Rodney’s face. A peace settled over the couple as their eyes met. Both began to smile. “Rodney,” Maria said, “I’m looking forward to sleeping in next week.”

5 Question Friday- April 29, 2011

I'm linking up to Five Question Friday on My Little Life. Learn a little about me, then come find some other great blogs to read, too!

1. If you could buy any car, money not an option, what would it be?
I LOVE the car I have now! I had wanted a Hyundai Santa Fe since the day I first saw a commercial for them. At the time, the cost was out of the question. Three years later, when my Ford Focus (Ick. I hated that car!) broke down, Daniel told me we should search for my dream. We found a used Santa Fe at a price we could afford, and we bought it. I just paid off the six year loan (a year early) last month. I REALLY hope this car takes me for several more years, because it really is the (2nd) best car I've ever had. (I have to pay tribute to my dear Hyundai Tiburon. Man, I loved that car! It's just not right for a family, though. Wait, can I change my answer. Money is not an option, so I can have two cars, right?

2. What was your worst first date ever?
My worst first date was actually with my first husband. That should have told me something, huh? We went to a late movie, and afterward he wanted to have a beer. I wasn't a bar person, so we decided to go back to my place. The problem? I lived with my parents. My brother was in the living room watching "Saturday Night Live." My brother, Fred, told Brian (my date) that he should just put the beer away and go home. He told him straight out he didn't like him, didn't want me dating him, and they were never going to be friends so Brian shouldn't ever expect him to be nice. Fortunately for me my brother DID come around and learn to be FRIENDLY, but they were definitely never FRIENDS!

3. How old were you when you fell in love for the first time?
Without a doubt, I was 13 years old. Matt and I shared our first kiss on Halloween the year I was in 8th grade. We dated off and on from that time until I married Brian (see above) at age 22. Gees, I was REALLY not thinking when I married Brian. When I went to see Matt to tell him I was going to marry Brian, he offered to marry me the very next day. He offered me the world. Why didn't I take it? I was extremely afraid of Matt's wheelchair, even though I had met Matt a couple of months after his accident that put him in the chair. I don't know why I never got over that awkwardness. Everything happens for a reason, though, and now I have the most fantastic husband and children, so I won't complain!

4. When was the last time you reconciled your checkbook?
You mean like to the penny? We'll just hope my mom ISN'T reading this post so I don't get yelled at. The world of on-line banking has made it a little easier to "forget" to reconcile. I can see from day to day that the bank and I basically agree, so I don't do it monthly like I should.

5. If you were going to fashion a "Wanted" Ad for a best friend, how would you word it?
Best Friend Wanted
Must Meet the Following Qualifications:
- Able to wear many hats- Someone who can be a talker, a listener, and a counselor. Someone strong who isn't afraid of fierce debate but will not hesitate to call at 3 AM when the world falls apart.
- Must love romantic comedies so I have a movie partner when my hubby won't watch because the movie is "too girly."
- Active person who loves to exercise but is willing to sit around "chewing the fat"
- Bookworm required; love to read and TALK about books
- Honest person who can tell me like it is, then pick up the pieces when I cry about it

Portrait Photo Contest



I am entering the photo contest at Life is Too Short Not to Wear Red Shoes! Wish me luck. Enjoy these pictures of my family. I could only enter two, and it was REALLY tough to choose which ones to enter. I think these are a couple of my favorites, though.



This is a classic picture of my dad. His expression is so serious, yet look at what he is reading. In this photo he is finding a joke out of the book he had just given his granddaughter for Christmas. They were having a great time finding jokes to tell each other. My dad would make a great poker player, I think.


Amber, age 3. Her favorite outing every week was to the public library. She's definitely my girl!

"Rage-" A Short Story

I have, for several weeks, been thinking of sharing my short stories with you, my readers. I've been somewhat reluctant, though. Opening up in this way leaves me vulnerable. Funny how I can tell you about stories that make me look stupid or silly in real life, yet sharing my made up tales scares the devil out of me. I think it is because this is something I REALLY want to be good at. I want someone more than my husband and my mother to tell me I'm a writer they would read if I put together a collection of my work.

So, today I share with you my writing and take a leap of faith like no other. If you hate the writing, please tell me so gently. If you love it, please tell me why. I really want to hear your comments either way. It is only through criticism that writing can be improved. Finally, if you know of places to submit this type of writing, and you think it would be worth sending in, please let me know!

This first story is one that I wrote during my creative writing class three years ago. I'm not sure exactly which writing trait we were working on, but I remember emailing the teacher to ask if I could cuss in my paper. The only way the story brewing in my head would work is if the character really "lost it." My instructor encouraged me to write how I needed to in order to tell the story. She agreed that writing sometimes has words and concepts that just aren't who the writer usually is as a person.

Yesterday I read a news article about a woman who is facing the possible loss of her job because she is a teacher who wrote a romance novel under a pen name. That really ticked me off. Yes, I'm ANGRY! As a fellow teacher, I can't believe this woman followed her dreams of both teaching and writing, and she may lose one because of the other. Because of my sadness for this teacher, I am sharing with you my short story called "Rage," a tale of a teacher who loses it for just one moment in life and must face the very real consequences.

Warning: There are ADULT words in this writing. If you are offended by mature (or immature, depending on how you look at it) language, PLEASE do not proceed. I believe I have made it clear that this writing is not typical of my style on my blog, but that it is written to bring out a character and her faults. I hope that you will not comment telling me that cussing does not belong on my blog. Thank you!


“Rage”

by Karen Lockinger Greenberg

Katie opened the car door with her foot, trying desperately not to drop her coffee mug on the ground as she juggled all she had to carry. “Hop in, kiddo,” she said to her four-year-old daughter. “We need to get you to preschool so I can get to work.”

“I hate it when you go to work, Mommy,” Megan whined. “I like the days you stay home and play with me.”

“I know it. You like to eat, don’t you? I need to work if we want food on the table and a place to live.” Ever since Jerry had left them, Katie had been struggling to keep it together for their little girl. It wasn’t easy on the salary of a substitute teacher.

Katie was glad she had that to fall back on. One thing she did right in life was to finish college before tying the knot. Katie had her degree in elementary education. She just needed to renew her certification and land a job.Megan would start kindergarten next year, so the timing was perfect. Perfect if you consider a divorce, selling her dream home, and living alone with a four-year-old perfect.

Once Megan was safely buckled into her car seat, Katie pulled out of the driveway and into the street, sighing.Getting a little girl ready for a day at preschool was not a calming activity, and the most frustrating part of the day was yet come. Katie did not like driving. She often wished she could twitch her nose and get from one place to the next.

Pulling onto the main road was never easy out of this neighborhood. Why did I move here? Katie thought. Oh, that’s right. I remember now. Because I was left with no money, no furniture, and only the clothes on mine and Megan’s backs. That’s right. Don’t even go there, Kate. Just get through this day. One day at a time, right? You can do this.

Katie began to accelerate, getting up to the appropriate speed for the main road. Suddenly, the car ahead of her was moving at the pace of a snail. Katie slammed on her brakes, spilling coffee down the front of her brand new silk blouse. “What the hell,” she screamed. “You stupid idiot!” Swerving around the driver bound to cause an accident, Katie noted that he was on his cell phone. I swear to God, she thought. I am going to stop the next asshole with a cell phone who can’t drive because their conversation is so damned important, and I’m going to stomp on their phone until it breaks to pieces. Right, she thought again, as if I had the nerve to do that.

“Mommy,” Megan started quietly. “Why are you shouting? You’re scaring me.”

“I’m sorry, bug. Don’t mind me. Mommy’s just nervous about getting a full time job. These drivers are making me angry.” Katie turned up the radio, making it clear the conversation was over. Megan was smart for a kid her age. She didn’t push the issue.

The drive to the daycare center was a short one. Katie pulled into a parking spot, prepping herself to say good-bye to her daughter. Having been a stay-at-home mom all Megan’s life, this was the worst part of going back to work. Katie turned the car off but didn’t move to get out. She turned to Megan, her arm stretching into the back seat. “Love you, bug. Give me a high five, okay? I’ll be back before you know it.” Katie wasn’t sure her words were meant to comfort Megan or herself.

Entering the center Katie heard high-pitched, squeaky voices. “Good morning, Katie! Good morning Megan! It is so great to see you today. We’re going to have a spectacular day.”

The preschool director was so fake. Go to hell, Katie thought. One of these days I’m going to tell you just what I think of your Little Miss Sunshine act. Jesus Christ, is this what the parents that come into my classroom think of me?

One of the hardest parts of being a teacher, Katie had decided, was to keep a positive attitude constantly. There were so many times during the day she just wanted to tell one of the kids to pull their heads out of their rear-ends and figure the damn problem out. What is wrong with kids today? They don’t want to put effort into anything.

After hugging Megan one last time Katie rushed to the car, having 15 minutes to make the 20 minute drive to the school she was subbing at that month. Katie was a long-term substitute, taking over for teachers needing a leave of absence for one reason or another. She was determined that one of these jobs was going to lead to full-time work.

A half mile from the job, Katie was stuck in yet another traffic jam. Finally the light turned green. Go, jackass, go. The light is green. Can’t you see that? Once again Katie felt the rage rising up in her. I am so not the person everyone thinks I am, Katie thought. I don’t know if I really can do this full time. I don’t want to turn into that Pollyanna-type like the director at the daycare.

Katie leaned on the horn. “The fucking light is green, you dip shit!” she screamed out the window while pounding on the steering wheel. “Would you just go already?”

At that moment Katie noticed the cell phone, held tightly by the man in the car ahead of her. I am so tired of this, she thought. I am so done with rude drivers.

Sliding the gear shift into park, Katie didn’t think of the consequences of her actions. The anger was propelling her in a way she had always been able to control in the past. Unfortunately the fury Katie was experiencing was a build up of the past nine months.

Not looking back, Katie stormed up to the SUV holding up traffic. “Open the door,” she demanded. A confused man glanced at Katie then rolled down his window.

“Excuse me,” the man said. “Can I help you with something?”

“Yes,” Katie blurted out. “You can help me by not being a selfish, self-important jerk. The light has been green for plenty of time for you to notice. Get the hell off the damn phone, act like you are not the only driver on the road, and drive!”

Katie wasn’t even thinking when her hand reached out and grabbed the phone from the man’s hand. She threw the phone on the ground and stabbed it with the heel of her designer boots. The cracking plastic made a satisfying crunching sound. Katie was encouraged by this and moved the broken cell phone under the ball of her foot.Witnesses later described Katie’s movements as those from the 1950’s dance “The Twist.”

“Look, Miss,” the owner of the cell phone started. Suddenly a look of recognition crossed his face. Confusion and embarrassment, both for himself and Katie, calmed him. “Ummmm, don’t I know you? Ms. Masterson? You interviewed with me last week.”

“Oh crap,” Katie said out loud before she had a chance to monitor herself. Katie quickly realized all that she had done and the consequences her actions would bring. “Principal McGuire. What brings you to this neck of the woods?” Katie was trying to back-peddle, bringing out her public persona- Ms. Masterson, the ever professional woman who was always upbeat and would never say a harsh word.

“Ms. Masterson, funny that we should meet under these circumstances. Coincidentally I was just trying to call you. I have a full time teaching position opening up for next year in the third grade.” Principal McGuire ran the back of his hand over his forehead. He was sweating from the confrontation as well as the increasing outdoor temperatures. “Uh, your file slipped off my seat when I stopped for the red light. I was trying to dial your number when the light turned green. I’m sorry for holding up traffic. I try not to use my cell phone when I drive, but in this case I wanted to try to catch you before someone else snagged you for next school year.”

Katie’s face went pale. She managed to squeak out a brief question, “I blew it, didn’t I?”

“Yes, Ms. Masterson. I believe you did. Your personality isn’t quite the type I would choose as a role model for our young students. I wish you luck in the future, but the offer is being taken off the table. You have a good day now.” Principal McGuire rolled up his window, checked to be sure the light was again green, and drove away.

Bowing her head and sheepishly walking back to her own car, Katie let the tears slide down her face. Everything in her life was a wreck. Today she saw the last of her dreams slip away, all because she gave into the rage. Fuck it, Katie thought to herself. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. She pulled into the shopping center near by, parked the car, and walked up to the store. “Hi. I’m here to buy a cell phone. I’d like the one that would work best while traveling in a car, please.”

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Friday blog hops

Facebook Friday on The Frugal Free Gal!



I LOVE giveaways! Check out this giveaway hop at Little Yaya's.



Facebook hop. Love it!


Stalk Hop Friday
Blogs, Facebook, Twitter... you name it, we've got it!

30 Day Photo Challenge- Day 27

Day 27: A picture of you and a family member

This is a picture of my mom and me on April 9, 2011. It is the day of my graduation party, celebrating my BA in Elementary Education. I had walked in my graduation ceremony the night before. As my mom pointed out, she thinks we have pictures of her in her cap and gown in pretty much the same location in her backyard. Her graduation was in the 1990s. I guess we just don't change our routines too often!

I love this picture. People have told me how much I look like my mom for years. I'm finally starting to see it. I don't mind, though. My mom is one cool chick!
Smart and Trendy Moms

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Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Thursday blog hops

Acting Balanced
One of my absolutely favorite hops of the week!


Don't miss this great giveaway hop hosted by Shibley Smiles!


Linda's Lunacy
Giveaways galore!

30 Day Photo Challenge- Day 26

Image taken from Google Images

Day 26 - A picture of something that means a lot to you

It's been awhile since I've written for the 30 day photo challenge. We are almost near the end, and I didn't want to forget about it. It certainly took me a lot longer than 30 days to complete the challenge, but I've had fun!

Something that means a lot to me is writing. I've always written, in some form or another, as a method to express myself or to be creative. As a teenager, before the days of blogs and other on-line journals, I kept written diaries. I wish I had kept some of those to look back on. Then again, maybe I really don't want to know what I was thinking. Life has definitely taken a different path than I expected.

As I grew older and had children at home, I continued to journal once in awhile, but my writing took on a more functional purpose. I wrote bios for dog rescue groups, hoping to attract adopters. I especially enjoyed writing the newsletter for Arizona Beagle Rescue while I was foster coordinator. I found that bringing information to people was a lot of fun.

Later, when I started college again, I took a creative writing class. That was a joy. I loved having a writing prompt and a reason to write other than for information. My teacher and I didn't necessarily agree on some of the assignments, but I got an A in the class. My writing must not have been that bad.

That brings us to today. Blogging has become a passion of mine. How neat that I am able to write and actually have an audience! When a reader leaves a comment, I get excited, knowing that I have touched someone in some way. The great thing about a blog is that I have complete control. I can write a lot in one day, or I can choose not to write at all. I can tell funny stories, heartbreaking tales, or be extremely informative. I have the chance to persuade others to think or act in a way that I hope will make the world a better place. Whether that happens or not, that's a whole different story! I can even share some of my creative writing samples here and get feedback. A blog is definitely the best outlet for a writer like me!

I don't think writing will ever NOT be a part of my life. I just passed the professional exam for the state of Arizona that will allow me to teach middle grades language arts. I am looking at a job right now teaching 7th and 8th grade. Just think- a whole job centered around reading and writing. What more could I ask for? I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

5 Minutes for Mom Giveaways

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Hero

Acting Balanced

Today for Thirsty for Comments Thursday I am bringing back a post from a year ago and refreshing it with a bit of an update.  A year ago today I was laying on our couch, having been released from the hospital just a few days before.  I had suffered from shingles and extreme complications that the doctors still can't explain now.  Daniel, my wonderful husband, really kept me going.  Without him and my parents I wouldn't have been allowed to come home from the hospital when I did.  Daniel was amazing with all he handled.

This year we are dealing with a different kind of illness.  Daniel has recently been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and has encouraged me to share our story just like we shared my story last year.  Ironically he has called me his hero more times than I can count in the last month.  I don't think either of us even remembered this post existed on my blog.  Somehow I think the two of us were meant for each other.  We will survive the drama of this year just like we got through the last one- together.  We'll come out stronger in the end.  I just hope next year we catch a break!

Please enjoy this post I wrote a year ago today.  Yes, the song runs both ways.  If I could kiss Daniel's pain away I'd do it in a heart beat.  And, yes, even through the hard times he has always had the ability to take my breath away.  Enjoy:


I heard this song, "Hero," by Enrique Inglesias, on another blog, and I had to just pause. I had to stop and think about my hero. Who is my hero? Truly my husband deserves that title. I don't know what I would do without him.

Over these past couple of weeks, while I've been sick, Daniel has taken on so much. I feel badly that he has so much on his shoulders, but I am most appreciative of the fact he is WILLING to do it all. I'm not sure all husbands would kick in the way he has.

Daniel spends his mornings helping me shower and get ready for the day, all while making sure the girls have eaten breakfast and gotten themselves ready for school. He then drives them to school and me to my parents' house so I can be around people in the event that I need assistance. Daniel then maintains an average of seven properties each day (he owns a landscape maintenance company), making it home on time (most days) to pick up the girls from school. We all go home, and Daniel starts the evening routine of laundry, dishes, and cooking dinner. He also helps the girls with their homework if the hustle and bustle is too overwhelming for me (which is often lately). By 4:00 in the afternoon I am often ready for a nap or ready to check out for the evening.

At night, Daniel gets the girls in bed, making sure they have brushed their teeth and actually gotten OUT of their clothing and into pajamas. He then makes sure I have what I need for the evening. He really gets to finally relax and choose an activity for himself around 8 PM. If I had the ability to say, "OK, I'm done being sick now," I would. Of course I don't, though, so for now I will just have to sit back and count my blessings.

"I can be you hero baby
I can kiss away the pain
I will stand by you forever
You can take my breath away"
lyrics from "Hero"

He may not be able to truly kiss the pain away; heck, even Vicodin can't always do that, but the fact that he tries makes Daniel my hero. He does take my breath away, and I hope that he knows that. Daniel is living proof that super heroes don't always wear tights!

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Monday, April 25, 2011

My Homeless Angel

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I told this story on my personal Facebook page the other day because we were talking about doing something little for others even if you can't do something big. See, people seem to think they need to go all out to make a difference, but it's sometimes the smallest gestures that can change a life.

The year was 2005, and our family lived in a tiny townhouse in Mesa, AZ. My husband would often run up to the Safeway up the road to grab an item we needed. Often times, as he was coming out of the store, he would run into a homeless man sitting on the bench. Daniel smoked cigarettes at the time, and he would take a few minutes to spend with the man while the two smoked.

One day Daniel came home and told me to pack a bag. He had found out that Brian, the homeless man at Safeway, loved to read. He would read anything he could get his hands on. One thing we DIDN'T have a lack of, around our house, was paperback books. I read like crazy, too, and I would often have a stack of books ready to go to the used bookstore to trade. One such pile went directly into the bag for Brian. We topped it off with a Bible, some snacks, and several bottles of water.

Daniel decided that the whole family should go back up to Safeway to deliver the bag we had packed. When we got there, our youngest daughter Amber asked if she could hug Brian. Her little 3-year-old mind didn't notice that he was dirty and stinky. She only saw a man who was smiling at her and happy to see our family. He must be a good guy if we were laughing and joking with him. Daniel said of course she could hug him.

As her arms went around Brian, tears streamed down his face. Andrea, then four years old, also gave Brian a hug, though she was confused why he was crying. After both girls had their turns, Brian thanked us over and over. Those were the first hugs he had had in years. Most people, he explained, took great care not to touch him as they gave him a handout. I wonder if we think being homeless is contagious?

Brian thanked us for the books and the bag, and we saw him several times in the weeks ahead. He was always reading one of the books I had passed along, and it sure felt good to know that I helped him smile. I may not have been able to give Brian and job or a house, but our family WAS able to give him all we could. The greatest gift was simply treating him like a human.

One Sunday morning, it happened to be Easter, Daniel pulled into the Safeway parking lot. When asked why we were there instead of church, Daniel told us we were there to pick up Brian. The church always preached to "come as you were," and we were going to hope they took that as literally as we were about to. Unfortunately, Brian wasn't there. As we drove to church I realized that I was deeply disappointed.

We never did see Brian again. I have to wonder if he wasn't put there specifically to teach us a lesson. Maybe we didn't really help him by giving him those books. Maybe we were helping ourselves. We were learning how to give from the very bottom of our hearts. Our giving stopped being superficial that day and become honest and true. We give what we can, when we can. That is a lesson that will never leave me.

Please enjoy this song by Colin Raye that is perfect for this situation. "What if Jesus Comes Back Like That?"

Sunday Surf (on Monday) - April 25th



Some of the best blog posts I found all week! This is a blog hop that I am hoping to participate in on a regular basis. It won't be so late next time, though! I hope you enjoy some of these posts as much as I did.

Bagel Spice: Callista at Callista's Ramblings found an awesome salt-free seasoning mix that will instantly turn your bagel into an "Everything bagel." Yum! She also had a great idea to mix it in ground beef to give your hamburgers some kick!

Don't Be Scared of My Green Pasture had an excellent perception of fear for Christians. Even as a person who does not necessarily consider myself Christian, this post made sense and gave me a feeling of peace, which is something I needed on the day I read the original post!

Okay, my mouth was watering when I read this recipe for a Cranberry Yogurt Parfait by My Life in a Wine Bottle! This definitely goes along with my ideas for a healthy lifestyle, though I can't say I've tried the Greek Yogurt myself. The recipe would work with a variety of substitutions, so go crazy and give it a try!

Non-Domestic Mama is just too cute and funny! In an earlier post, she was concerned about how to display the Easter goodies. In the end it all worked out, just like her faithful readers knew it would.

And, finally, Paul Lockinger, author of "The Puppy Who Refused to Die" (he also happens to be my dad), has provided an exciting offer. My readers can now get a copy of the book simply by paying shipping and handling. That is an incredible deal! You can read the first chapter of the book before buying, but I would suggest keeping a tissue handy!

Have a great week, and Happy Surfing! I hope you enjoy the above posts as much as I did. Now I'm off to read some more for next week.

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Sunday, April 24, 2011

Six Word Saturday

The idea here is to describe your life in six words. Let me see if I can sum up this week:

Coming home; relieved, tired, excited, celebrating

One week ago today I came home from the hospital. I was never so glad to see my own home, my own bedroom, and my own bathroom. I was worn out, though, and after a trip back to the ER on Monday night, I slept all day Tuesday. I was excited, though, to be home with my kids and husband. I was incredibly lonely in the hospital, even though I had some fantastic visitors who tried to keep me busy and happy.

Today was a day for celebrating Easter. Though we don't celebrate the religious part of it, we do use the holiday to spend time together as a family. This year my mom and dad did a great Easter egg hunt for the girls, we had piles of food, and we all sat around watching old movies. It can't get much better than that.

This week I am late in participating, but I still wanted to give it a try. Hopefully next week I can get it done on time!

Four Fill-In Fun

Four Fill-In Fun with Feeling Beachie!

Well, I'm quite late with this post, but I thought it would be fun to participate in the Four Fill-In Fun, so I'm going to post this anyway. Hopefully next week I'll actually post it on Friday! Have a great week.

1. If not for my significant other, I’d never have started my own business. The landscape maintenance company that we have now is considered Daniel's, as far as I am concerned. However, our first business (also a landscaping company) was DEFINITELY a joint affair. We stayed up many nights working on our plan, and we got up early many mornings to hand out advertising flyers. I spent several months working in the field with Daniel while my mom babysat the girls. Owning your own business is an experience unlike any other. Knowing that your next paycheck is coming COMPLETELY from your own efforts really changes the way one looks at work.

2. On more than one occasion, I have slept in a car. I am notorious for falling asleep while someone else is driving. I'm amazed I don't fall asleep while I am driving! Seriously, if the ride is longer than about 15 minutes, and I'm not reading or actively talking to the driver or other passengers, I will be out like a light. I feel badly for my husband. I'm sure it can get lonely doing all the driving with me asleep next to him.

3. The worst meal I ever made was mac and cheese when I was about 10-years-old. It was the first dish I was preparing by myself, and I totally messed it up. I was supposed to put 1/4 cup of milk in the pot, but I misunderstood the directions. I put 1 and 1/4 cup of milk in. Thankfully my dad is really good at fixing things without too much trouble, and he grated some cheese into the mix and poured off some of the milk. He taught me that mistakes aren't the end of the world.

4. My guilty t.v. pleasure is "The Secret Life of the American Teenager" and "Make It or Break It." Both of those shows are filled with nothing but sex and gossip, but I enjoy getting away from the real world to watch them.

The Versatile Blogger Award!

My first award! Can you believe it? Letters from Home has chosen me for The Versatile Blogger award. Thank you! And, she said some really nice things about me in her post. Thanks again!

The rules for accepting this award is that I must tell you 7 things about me, then pay the award forward to other bloggers. So, here are seven things about me:

1. I was born in Woodstock, IL. No, this is NOT the famous Woodstock where the famous rock concert took place in the 1960s. I get asked that every time I tell someone my hometown. THAT Woodstock was in New York. My Woodstock is a little town just south of the Wisconsin border.

2. I moved away from Woodstock when I was 11 years old, but I have some fantastic memories of the town square. We had Halloween costume parades in the square, and we went to see Santa there a few times, I think. There may have even been Easter egg hunts, but I'm not sure. The bank my parents used was on the square, and there was a bakery nearby that we all enjoyed. Yum! One thing I really miss about living in a bigger city is the sense of community that a town square offers. By the way, you may have even seen that town square. The movie "Groundhog's Day" was filmed in Woodstock.

3. I moved to Arizona seven days before I started seventh grade. I promised my parents for years that I would be moving back to IL on my 18th birthday. Shortly after said date, I went to visit and make my plans to move. When the snow was piled so high in the driveway, and the ice was caked onto my windshield so much that it took 30 minutes just to be ready to drive away in the morning, I quickly changed my mind. I like hopping in my car and taking off seconds, not hours, later!

4. I graduated high school and started college at age 17. My original major was elementary education. I changed it so many times because I just couldn't get focused. My dad finally said I needed to pick something and stay with it so I could finish. It took me five years from the time I started college, but I finally got an Associate's degree in Administration of Justice. I simply wasn't ready to face "real life."

5. I FINALLY finished my elementary education degree in November 2010. This time I AM ready and I am going to be a great teacher. I can say that because I have learned to have confidence in myself, something I was lacking at age 17. You can read about my recent graduation ceremony here: Graduation.

6. I have been married twice. I married my first husband on my mom's 40th birthday. We were only married a short time, and both of us realized we wanted to go in VERY different directions in life. I married my second husband on June 24, 2000 at the Grand Canyon Deer Farm. We were among the deer with them literally eating my bouquet as we were saying our vows. It was exactly our style and is a good example of how we live our lives.

7. I have two beautiful children. Andrea is 10-years-old, and Amber is 8. They definitely keep my life busy, and they were the inspiration for living a healthy lifestyle. I want my girls to grow up knowing how to give themselves the best of what life has to offer. That means enjoying food while also knowing what will help their bodies to work the best. Exercise should be an enjoyable activity. I hope my girls become women who are proud of who they are on the inside and the outside.

And now.... the second part of the award is to pass it along to other bloggers. I have chosen three, USS Parenting, ArtMuseDog, and Diaries of a Grumpy Grateful Mom. Each of these stand out to me as bloggers who have great ideas and really enjoy sharing with people. They are all great at responding to comments on their own blogs and leaving comments for others. That, to me, is what blogging is all about- building a community so we can all learn from each other. I hope you enjoy the award, USS Parenting, ArtMuseDog, and Diaries of a Grumpy Grateful Mom!